Cord & Flame

30 questions for married couples to ask tonight

These questions come from Cord & Flame, a five-minute nightly game for couples. Take turns, listen without fixing, and laugh when you can.

Light and fun

  1. What's the most ridiculous thing you've ever seen me do?
  2. If our kitchen became a restaurant, what ridiculous name should it have?
  3. If we opened a completely useless business together, what would we sell?
  4. If our home had a warning label, what would it say?
  5. If someone made a movie about the two of us, what would the title be?
  6. If we invented a new holiday, what would everyone have to do?

Remembering us

  1. What's one thing you enjoyed doing together when we first met?
  2. Remember a time we laughed so hard we couldn't stop? What started it?
  3. What's a date we've had that you'd happily repeat?
  4. What's a first you still want to have with me?
  5. What's something about us you never want to lose?
  6. What's the best thing this season gave us?

Noticing each other

  1. What's a small thing that always makes you smile?
  2. When did you last feel really proud of me?
  3. What's one thing I did recently that you appreciated, even a small one?
  4. What's one quality in me you still admire?
  5. What's one thing I do that says I love you without words?
  6. What's one thing I do that makes you feel deeply loved?

A little deeper

  1. What's one small thing that would make your week easier?
  2. What's something you're carrying right now that I could help hold?
  3. What's one thing you're facing this month that you'd love me to cheer on?
  4. When did I stand up for you when you needed it most?
  5. What's a dream you've never fully said out loud?
  6. What's one promise you want to keep better this year?

Looking ahead

  1. What's one new thing you'd love for us to try together?
  2. What's one thing you're proud we've built together?
  3. What makes you feel most welcome when you come home to me?
  4. What's one thing you wish I said out loud more often?

For couples of faith

  1. Where have you seen God's kindness in our marriage this year?
  2. What can I pray for you this week?

Want a new question every night?

Cord & Flame turns questions like these into a five-minute game, with guessing rounds, little dares and a moment to finish together. Try three nights free, no account needed.

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